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Mums's arms can't be our only magic trick to help our babies to calm down

For you the dad, the non-breastfeeding parents, that part is for you. Because it's easy to feel that you will never beat your partner breast, how helpless it can feel sometimes. I want to tell you that mummy's arms and breast will not be the only magic trick to find your baby's calm.

I know, because,

I've been the stranger one
The one, baby spend 9 months with
The one that can't wake mom up, because she really needs to sleep
The one that she counts one to not give a bottle yet.

Watching the Thalasso Baby Bath, you can see how we could sooth your baby away from familiar arms. There is a way. There is actually such a rich and wide way you will be able to do it, even and especially) outside of the water. There are so many ways you will be able to step in and have the enjoyable part you deserve in this.

When I look at that bath we did, how their son found calm again, here is what I see I see me few years from now … so scared to see baby getting fussy, that I would straight away give baby back to mummy because “that is the only thing that will work”. Back then I was so stressed too! Scared to give them my stress. Scared to be useless faced to their distress Watching the Thalasso bath of this sweetheart, I see where I came from to be so grounded with him today. I know what i do, why i do it. I know when to be patient with what I’m offering him to find peace. And I know exactly when to change my strategie. When will be my check point to offer something else to him. Don’t get me wrong when a baby cries… My heart is still beating hard, but i am grounded. Now, I know. I know peace is around the corner. I know we are gonna find it. And I know it can be found elsewhere mummy arms. I know mummy’s arms are not the magic trick, neither their breast. I know that now, thanks (genuinely) to Thalasso Baby Bath

In case, no one told you.

''Just hold them. You are all your baby need" "Just breastfeed"

they say

"You've got to let then cry, even a little bit. For your sanity, you won't be able to hold them all the time and forever"

The one placing so much pressure on mum's shoulder, and leaving the dads feeling powerless. And the other side of the spectrum, doesn't offer much solutions than choosing guilt over exhaustion.
So in case no-one told you:

YES, you baby need to be held.
NO, it is not the answer to all their needs.
YES, holding is so powerful to sooth a baby,

but, NO it is not the only way to sooth them.

The right answer will be the one you choose, in between. And the right answer for you will change, and move as you go. And that is when we professional carer, is our place to support you, giving you the wide range of option you have, help you to find what you choose (not setting the rules for you).

And this is exactly what I will help you to do in the next episode →